Regarding
the issue of asexuality and rape-
Even though it might be a triggering subject, I think it's an important issue that we should discuss in the asexual community.
I have read on tumblr about asexuals who were raped and now define themselves as ace.
The problem is whether or not their asexuality was caused by the trauma.
I know there are some asexuals who say that they are asexuals regardless of what they have been through.
And there are asexuals who know that their assaults most probably affected their sexual orientation.
And there are some who are confused.
And I also know that there are asexuals who are afraid to say that they were sexually assaulted and as a possible result they became asexuals- because that might stigmatize the community.
And I can get them.
I think the community shouldn't avoid this subject though.
And even if we can't at this point of time discuss in public about asexuality and rape, it is an issue that should be discussed inside the community.
Now, here is the thing.
There are other people who were raped and didn't come out as asexuals
but each to its own history.
I'm following on tumblr a guy that has did (dissociative identity disorder, aka split personality) because of his abuse when he was a child.
He certainly is not an asexual, and is quite the opposite, to say the least.
Again, that's just one case I'm familiar with.
On this forum, we have stumbled upon a few asexuals who were raped in prior years and were unsure whether or not they were asexuals due to their trauma.
So, yeah, rape sure might be a cause of asexuality
and yeah, there are asexuals who were 'born' asexuals
but I don't think that really matters,
I don't really think the cause of asexuality matters here.
What matters is what you feel rn, and how you perceive your relationships.
And yeah, I am aware that sexual assaults gives one a huge hurdle in relationship, especially during intimate moments.
And I know that therapies' intent is that one would overcome these hurdles- such as being intimate with other parties.
But if you don't want it- then.......I don't really think you should do something you don't want to.
(Even if it's labelled as a PTSD issue(.
I was sexually assaulted after I defined myself as an asexual- so I guess I'm pretty sure the assaults weren't my cause to asexuality.
At any rate,
I love blabber incoherently.
I have a friend who I presume identifies as gray A or wtf asexual.
He have had sex before and enjoyed it- but he doesn't really care whether he has it in a relationship or not.
He feels weird a little bit about sex.
idk,
so what you described reminded me of him.
Oh and I know another girl who is demisexual.
