זקוק לעיצה

[rupio007]

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איך גורמים לדיקן להסגים להפגש איתך (ובלי קשר לסקס

) אני מתכוון לזה שדיקן באוניברסיטה שלי מסרב בכל תוקף להפגש איתי, ללא שום סיבה מוצדקת. איפה אני יכול להתלונן על זה??? מישהו יודע איך ליצור קשר עם המועצה להשכלה באיחוד באירופאי???

 

[eig]

תכתוב כתבה....

תכתוב כבתה בעיתון מקומי או בעיתון של האוניברסיטה על הפליה וגזענות, על אנטישמיות וכו וכו לא רק שהוא יפגוש אותך, אם אפילו ישלמו לך פיצויים חמישים שנה אחרי וימצאו אוצרות אבודים באוסטריה להיא לך שי להתנצלות וכו וכו אתה יודע להיות יהודי זה לא מספיק, צריך להשתמש בזה (אני ציני למי שלא הבין)

 

[rupio007]

i was really serious

 

[gabcake]

more info

I think it would be helpful, if you gave more details about the circumstances, such as why do you need to talk to him, why do you think he is refusing, has this happen in the past to you, or others..etc. Then I would feel informed enough to give you advice.​

 

[rupio007]

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well the thing is that i have to do a test and i dont go to any classes (self study) and it was for free till this year and now the people tat are in the same situation like me were asked to pay 2280USD for this test...where the school is doing nothing for us...only to give us the 5 pieces of paper and to mark it...which takes to a very slow person max of 5 min. he refused to see me on the ground that i already paid (today was the last day of payment, that if i didnt pay i would bot be able to do the test) i asked for this meeting over 2 weeks ago...he said that if i paid that means that there is nothing to talk about... i dont think that this answer is acceptable from the decan of a university. Another reason that i think he will not meet me is due to the fact that he told me that i am "making up syndroms" of דיסלקציה and that a Dr. can not be with any kind of "diseases". For that sentence i wanted to kill him ...but now...it is way beyond that... Would really appreciate an addvice tnd not sarcazem...thanks...​

 

[gabcake]

Some thoughts..

First, no worries, cynicism is not my thing. This Dean sounds like he is afraid of the confrontation with you, because he probably knows that you are right. He is avoiding you, hoping that you will let it go, but you don't have to. His comment about the dislexia, helped me assume his profile - a condesending Dr (is he a doctor?) who uses denial to cover up for his own imperfections. So when you write another letter to him I would cc: some people. Find out if the university has a human rights officer, you could cc that person on the letter. Try to see who is above him in the school (the head of all deans maybe). Also,, amybe a board that is outside the university, like in the USA there is the "Better business Bureu", that when you threaten s business that you will report them to the BBB, often they start to listen. I don't know what would be the paralel in the country you are in, but there might be something. Hang in there rupio..and I'll ask around for more ideas.​

 

[rupio007]

thanks a million....will try...

but maybe you know if there is a high education board in the EU or something like that??

 

[ro99]

First of all

From now on you have to start making sure everything that happens between you and the dean is in writing. You need proof and also people take things more seriously if they are written down (because they know that you have proof, and they know that you mean business). For your own sake and for the sake of getting things done, ignore anything he has said to you about dyslexia or any other insults. So the guy's an arsehole. But you knew that already, didn't you? If you focus on how he makes you feel, then he's going to get you. He's probably doing that exactly for that purpose - it's like psyching you out. Focus on what you want to get from him. You need to be very businesslike and leave your emotions behind when dealing with such people. The second they know they can upset you, they feel they have the upper hand over you and then they will use it to make you lose. By all means, cry and swear and be emotional when you're on your own or with friends, but don't let him see that. There's no point: it won't help you - if anything, it will make things a lot worse for you. Start by writing a formal letter in which you state your case very very clearly (if you want, I am prepared to help you draft a letter). Sometimes, just the shock of getting an unexpectedly professional letter from someone who seems to know their rights is enough to jolt the other person into action. Give him a deadline by which you expect a reply (or action). List clearly how you have tried every other way to get a result (trying to make appointments etc) and that if he doesn't respond to this you will forward the details of the case to the European Ombudsman. If the deadline passes without him doing anything about it, file a complaint with the EO and send the dean a brief letter saying you have filed a complaint. Here's a PDF file explaining the procedure of filing a complaint with the European Ombudsman.​

 

[rupio007]

i will do so...

it will bery hard for me not to show my emotions ...i am a very emotional person (as you know ro) and will take the advice... i will take a layer that will help me with all...i dont know to much about it so he must know more)its not that hard.. and i will complain in the EO about the him..hope they can help me...also i am afraid that itwill be hard for me to continue to study after doing so...