אני אוהב את התגובה שלך כי
זה מה שמעניין אותי (ללמוד). תיכף אני עושה הליכה, והלוואי והיתה לי שותפה להליכה שעשתה שיעורי בית בנושאים קרובים והיינו מדברים על זה. לצערי, פעם פרסמתי בקשה למצוא מישהי כזאת, ופירשו אותי כאילו אני מחפש על ידי מציאת ידידות למצוא בת זוג. ושאלו "אז למה דווקא בחורה", והאמת כי זה יותר נוח לי נפשית.
אבל, כדי לא לקלקל את אווירת ההתעניינות בנושא החדש, אשמח אם תמצאי את מילות החיפוש שאכתוב לך ואז גם תפרי את הפורום (בשבילי) במידע, אז מילות החיפוש שצריכות להיות הם; costs of commitment + relationship
גם לי קשה באנגלית, אבל לביניים הנה משהו מעניין:
Sexual economy
Desire and price go hand in hand.[9] The highly desired woman within a community can command a higher price. The most obvious indication of the extent to which she is desired by men is her beauty and sex appeal. A woman who conforms to the standards of beauty set out by the society in which she lives can command a higher price than women who do not conform to this standard.[10] A woman can enhance her beauty using makeup, clothes, dieting and other methods to assist in her improving her looks. A woman will maximize her level of attractiveness by conforming to the norms of the community in which she is competing for male attention.[11] You can compare a woman to an entrepreneur enhancing her appeal by bringing a new product onto the marketplace. Therefore, the act of enhancing appeal is a viable strategy. Advertising a product is also a viable method of increasing demand.[12] Creating the impression that sex with her will be an undeniable pleasurable experience by wearing sexy clothes and flirting, is considered to be a sensible economic strategy for women to pursue.[13]
Feminists consistently argued the fact that women should be able to wear what they want without becoming susceptible to unwanted male attention.[14] The social exchange theory helps us to understand that it is beneficial for a woman to gain more male desire than she wants to satisfy.[5] If men could grasp this concept, it may lead them to understand why women dress to impress without it meaning that she wishes to have sex with any of the men that she attracts. Her role in the sexual marketplace is to get as many men to desire her without having sex with them; sex is only given to the highest bidder.[1]
In fact having sex with multiple partners for a woman makes for an unsuccessful strategy. Scarcity increases the value of a commodity, as emphasized by social exchange theorists.[15] If a woman is known to provide sexual favours regularly to different men she is perceived as of low value, and the amount that a man is prepared to exchange will be equal to that perceived value. A woman is perceived as of a high value if she rarely provides sexual favours. In this sense a woman’s sexual favours are a non renewable resource, which provides a woman with an incentive to allocate them moderately.[16]
Therefore a wide distribution of a woman’s sexual favours assists in a reduction in value. A repercussion of this provides her with an incentive to maintain a reputation for having minimal partners as well as being selective in her choice of partner.[17]
Men on the other hand, are not bound by these constraints; men will brag about their sexual conquests and even exaggerate how much they have had. Therefore low cost sex is of benefit to a man who can boast about his many lovers without bearing the cost of having to marry each partner that he chose to sleep with, at the same time as gaining respect from his peers. Women on the other hand do not have this privilege.[17]
Competition among women may be bound to advertising ones beauty and upholding a virtuous reputation for sexual exclusivity as long as demand is high
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